The moment people feel they know what to expect from you, your spell on them is broken. More: you have ceded them power. The only way to lead the seduced along and keep the upper hand is to create suspense, a calculated surprise.

Give the victim a thrill with a sudden change of direction.

In this part of the Art of Seduction, you need to create constant tension and suspense, a feeling that with you nothing is predictable. You are creating drama in real life, so pour your creative energies into it, have some fun.

But best of all are surprises that reveal something new about your character. This needs to be set up.

Keys to Seduction

Any sudden event has a similar effect, striking directly at our emotions before we get defensive.

Appear somewhere unexpectedly, say or do something sudden, and people will not have time to figure out that your move was calculated.

Finally, you might think it wiser to present yourself as someone reliable, not given to caprice. If so, you are in fact merely timid.

If, on the other hand, you prefer to improvise, imagining that any kind of planning or calculation is antithetical to the spirit of surprise, you are making a grave mistake.

Constant improvisation simply means you are lazy, and thinking only about yourself.


Surprise can be unsurprising if you keep doing the same thing again and again.

You need to vary the method of your surprises.